快速帮助指南儿童期性虐待

儿童期性虐待事实

It is estimated that one in every three women and one in every six men in America are victims of childhood sexual abuse. In most cases, the perpetrator was a personal acquaintance or relative. Ninety to ninety-five percent of these cases are never reported to the police.

The emotional trauma caused by abuse can surface during childhood, 青春晚期, 甚至是成年期, and the effects of sexual abuse can look different in each developmental stage. Survivors might repress or downplay their feelings thinking their experience was not as traumatic as that of others or that they should have “gotten over it” by now. 然而, ignoring the “hidden bruises” of childhood sexual abuse limits the restoration and healing of mind, body, and soul that Christ intends for His children.

警告标志

儿童性虐待的迹象

内疚和羞耻
Feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety
Flashbacks, nightmares, sleeping problems
Hatred of body, eating disorders, self-abusive behaviors
消极的、孤僻的或粘人的行为
不信任:不能信任自己或他人
Fear of entering into new relationships or activities
对身体亲密的恐惧
Using sex as a distraction from feelings of guilt, shame, or depression
Confusion or questions related to sexual attraction / orientation

照顾好自己

Expect to go through a period of mourning. The innocence of your childhood was taken from you.
Seek professional counseling on campus at the Counseling Center or through other providers in the area.
Place yourself in a setting where you can hear the stories of other survivors of childhood sexual abuse. This support and shared power over the offenders of your past can help provide a healthy vision for your future. Many churches offer caring ministries or support groups.
让你的家人和朋友帮助你.
Listen to comforting, inspirational or worship music, and meditate on Scripture. These activities can help remind you of God’s goodness and assure you of hope for the future.

如何帮助朋友

If your friend carries some of the hidden bruises of childhood sexual abuse, believe what he or she is saying and encourage him or her to talk with a specialized counselor, especially if he or she is engaging in self-abusive behaviors or showing signs of damaged physical health.
Consider helping your friend complete a Request for Counseling on the Counseling Center’s website and then offer to accompany him or her to the first appointment.
Encourage your friend to stay with treatment over time. Therapy will not erase the abuse or make the negative feelings magically disappear, but counseling can help survivors refashion their view of the world and of themselves and gradually restore their control over their feelings and lives.
Offer emotional support through understanding, patience, and compassion.
尊重朋友的隐私. Don’t share his or her experience with other people. Instead, let your friend decide in whom she or he wishes to confide.
Support your friend in making his or her own decisions regarding legal action or reconciliation with the abuser. Encourage your friend to get information about these options from advocates on campus in Residence Life, 学生生活, 校园牧师办公室, 及/或咨询服务.

1 in 3 girls and 1 in 10 boys are victims of child sexual abuse. Some 20% of adult females and 5-10% of adult males can recall a childhood sexual assault or abuse incident. -Crimes Against Children 研究 Center

如果这些建议不起作用怎么办?

The 学生生活 Office and Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) can help you get in touch with specialized help on or off campus. Individual counseling is available on campus in addition to support offered by staff in Campus Pastor’s office, 学生生活和住宿生活.

如果你需要紧急援助, 请拨打911, the On Call RD at (805) 565-6273 or Westmont Public Safety at (805) 565-6222.

校内和校外支持

学生生活 Office: Room 209 Kerrwood Hall, (805) 565-6028

Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) - westmont.Edu/caps - (805) 565-6164

校园牧师办公室: Clark B Cottage, (805) 565-6170

Health Center: Health and Counseling Center (lower campus), (805) 565-6164

你的驻院主任

Students should be aware that college policy requires a report to law enforcement when in the course of their work for the college a member of the faculty or staff becomes aware of or has reason to suspect that an individual under the age of 18 has suffered abuse or neglect. For details and more information on when a report is required, see the Q&就像在大学里一样强制性报告政策在教职员网页上. Additionally, you can visit the 学生生活 Office for the Reporting requirement information.

额外的资源

Hush: Moving from Silence to Healing After 儿童期性虐待 By Nicole Braddock Bromley

On the Threshold of Hope By Diane Mandt Langberg

《ag娱乐官网》作者:大卫·希曼兹

女人，你被释放了! 通过T.D. 厕所

Beauty for Ashes: Receiving Emotional Healing By Joyce Meyer

Released from Shame: Moving Beyond the Pain of the Past By Sandra Wilson

快速帮助指南 儿童期性虐待

快速帮助指南儿童期性虐待